Whether it’s men or women, there are those who love flirting, but never get into a relationship.
It’s not just commitment phobia that has these ‘players’ backing off once their target has fallen heads-over-heels in love with them. So, is it about deriving pleasure from leaving someone hankering after them ?
We explore what the rules of their game are :
Love the chase
These people are intrigued when a guy/girl doesn’t fall prey to their charm easily. It’s the chase and not the kill that gives them a high. They don’t want to give up the excitement of making someone fall in love with them. But once that is achieved, they don’t know what to do !
Keeping the score
Men love bragging about their score with girls and it often drives them to hit on women. Says 27-year-old Priya Mathur, “My male friends would actually have competitions over how many girls’ phone numbers they could get from at a disc. They would later go out on dates with the ones they managed to convince. They kept score and teased each other about it.”
Those who suffer from commitment phobia are never sure whether to let go of their dating partner or to hang on to him/her. In the bargain, they end up causing heartache not just to their partner, but also to themselves. Says 26-year-old Jay Parikh, “I was dating my colleague for almost seven months. We got along very well, but she couldn’t handle it if I referred to her as my girlfriend. We had to part ways, because I was ready to get serious, but she refused to move ahead.”
Some people can’t resist playing the field, but they know very well that if the news of their escapades reach their parents, they will have a lot to pay for. Not wanting to risk their home footing, they prefer to date without getting into something more serious.
The eternal single
Those who love being single and cringe at the thought of someone else ruling their life also fall into the forever-flirty category. “I can’t imagine being answerable to someone. Also, the thought of calling someone or answering someone’s calls doesn’t sit well with me. But I do enjoy dating,” says 24-year-old Mitesh Shah, who doesn’t see himself getting into a relationship anytime soon.