Question : I am a 26-year-old woman working with a company in Delhi. A couple of months ago, I had a sexual encounter with my boss when I for the company offsite meeting. Now, I don’t want to take this further, but he seems interested. How should I get out of this? I don’t want to lose my job or put my reputation at stake.
Answer by Seema Hingorrany, a Clinical Psychologist and Author Unplanned sexual encounters can be a negative experience and can leave unpleasant feelings in the mind. I understood your dilemma and emotions very well. Most of the women go through feelings of guilt, self-blame and heightened anxiety about how they will handle such situations in the future. As you said this job is very important to you, keeping that in mind I suggest that you need to be categorical with your boss about your thoughts on what transpired between you both. A frank conversation will decrease misunderstandings, and he will not get confused signals as he might be expecting you to have such more future encounters. Put it in such a way that you shouldn’t sound defensive in your tone or putting the blame on him as this sexual encounter was with your consent. Please put it forward to him that it was a hurried and impulsive move on your part and you are not feeling comfortable about what happened. I am sure he will appreciate your feelings and move on. Make sure you don’t discuss this with your close colleagues at work, such things does happen in process of venting out.
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