A couple returning from their honeymoon as soulmates is a thing of the past.  Of late, there is a substantial increase in the number of separations post a honeymoon amongst city couples. Below are few reasons why this is happening.

1. Failed to seduce

Last month, a couple went for their honeymoon to Bali, but the woman’s efforts to seduce her husband failed and the 10-day trip was cut short to three days. When asked about the reason for not being physically intimate, the boy stated that even though he was not in love with someone else, he did not feel connected to his wife. Post their return, they decided to go for a separation.

Says psychologist and marriage counsellor Sanjoy Mukerji, “There is a significant increase in the number of post honeymoon divorces in the last three years. Besides emotional compatibility, physical intimacy is seen as an important aspect in a relationship. When that is not in place, one partner will feel that sex will eventually get robotic and no longer fun. Differences automatically creep in when you don’t look forward to being physically close to your partner.”


2. No time for tolerance

Increasing daily stress leaves people with zero tolerance to any more tension. Explains Nagasri, “After compromising on most things, people reach a saturation point beyond which they don’t want to compromise any further.” Seen mainly amongst the higher middle class section of society, it is primarily younger couples who refuse to adjust. Sticking to one’s guns, gains focus and giving time to the relationship also doesn’t seem to work. Says Nandita Sarma, psychologist and marriage counsellor, “I’ve come across couples who get divorced within two to three months of their marriage. In many of these cases, they have had the time to know each other and have been physically intimate, too. It, then, is a calculated decision from both ends.” Lack of patience and knowing that there is a way out, living in the moment has gained prominence. Adds Sarma, “In the last five years, women are more forthcoming in filing for divorces. They have started earning as well as men and do not wish to abide to their unruly demands and behaviour.”


3. Lack of acceptance

Decisions taken impulsively may be a cause of regret later. In case of arranged marriages, knowing each other well not just superficially, but really well is important. Advises Deshmukh, “Couples need to understand that it takes time to grow together and understand each other. Plus, accepting each other the way they are is very important.” Adds Shetty, “Marriage is a work in progress and one is bound to get bored — the idea is to maintain it the way you maintain a car in order to keep it going.”


We pray that understanding improve in relationships.

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